Be Brave Enough To Be Bad At Something New
In late October, I completed my third Girl Guitar Showcase, the culmination of a six-week course that is followed by a performance showcase. As I walked on the stage, I felt a slight adrenaline rush, as I always do. To me, this is a good sign that I am out of my comfort zone, and my focus has been to do more things that get me out of my comfort zone!
That evening after the show, a friend and I talked about the showcase. She felt inspired to play, so I grabbed my guitar and handed her my second one, showing her a few chords.
She’s very good at transitioning the chords, but after about 20 minutes she’d had enough. “I just want to be able to play a full song,” she said, impatiently.
As soon as the words left her mouth, I was taken back in time. A time when I was first beginning to learn and had those same exact thoughts!
When I first began guitar lessons, I felt impatient and eager. I wanted to be able to play a song almost immediately and was frustrated when the strings hurt my fingertips.
Everyone has something that they envision themselves achieving. Maybe it’s going back to work after having children, enrolling in a singing class or being brave enough to make the first move in a relationship.
The problem is we let fear stand in the way. We’re worried we will embarrass ourselves when we are not perfect out of the gate. No one begins their journey fully fledged, it’s not about just leaping forward rather it takes a series of steps. That is what makes it fun, that is the journey.
Fortunately, I quickly recognized that if I wanted to improve, I really didn’t have a choice. I simply had to shift my mindset and be patient.
Lesson by lesson I became more focused. My fingertips started to form calluses, which made playing more comfortable. I was putting in the time and celebrating small achievements. The noise eventually started to sound more like music.
Some months I’d be more inspired to play than others but I never quit practicing. I was no longer focused on the destination. This allowed me to be fully present and enjoy the moment.
Fast forward to the showcase in October. I take so much pride in how far I’ve come and how far I still have to go. When you experience the discomfort, hard work, patience, and the effort that goes into something new it creates an indescribable sense appreciation for what you have now earned. It’s true what they say: Nothing worth having comes easy!
We live in an instant gratification society. In my opinion when we receive something immediately it’s harder to truly value it. If you are in a place in life where you are going through something hard, that requires patience, growth and reflection, then I encourage you to pause in the moment, be present and soak it all in. Remember these moments. You’ll look back on them someday with gratitude.
These moments are going to fuel you with pride when the milestones are met. These are the moments that you will look back on and truly cherish, whether it be a musical instrument, a relationship, career or a hobby that you are working towards. Remember that the beauty is not in the destination but the journey that led you there.
Today I challenge you to take a leap into something that you’ve always wanted to try– perhaps a public speaking class, or a musical instrument. Be brave enough to be bad at something new that is where the growth happens.